Monday, December 3, 2012
Drama No More- Wrote this a couple weeks past forgot to post it
Hello All! So I'm going to write about a couple different things. I have come to realize, with some help, that I have a couple "problems" that are all mind consuming. The post before this was about not letting the little things turn into big things, yet I'm doing that exact thing right now. I'm trying to learn how to set boundaries with specific people in my life right now and I don't feel like I'm successful in that. I'm having a difficult time REALLY speaking up- I can voice that I want things to be different and hopefully they will be, but right now I don't feel like I'm aggressive enough in setting those boundaries. I don't want to "minimize" this issue because I know that if I let these boundaries continue to be crossed I will end up much more angry and/or upset about a issue that could have been a small one. I'm just having such a hard time saying what I really mean- I don't want to hurt other people by these boundaries, nor do I intend to, but setting boundaries isn't exactly a pleasant thing for anyone, and that is what I don't like. I want everything to be butterflys and roses easy. I've just come to realize that life is so so short and could be over in a second and I do not want to live my life surrounded by drama anymore. I think I've always kind of migrated to drama. I had friends in high school that were the definition of drama queen, and I just always found myself in the middle of other people's issues. I have no problem, I actually enjoy, hearing others problems and trying to help them in what ever way I can, but I've learned that I cannot change people. People change themselves.I guess I'm just hoping that I can learn to separate other's issues and my life. I tend to let things bother me and I dwell on them and wonder what could be done differently. I know its healthy to an extent to con tinplate certain issues but my problem is letting those issues affect my life. I'm just in a place right now where I need to end drama in my life. I have enough to deal with and I know that comes off as selfish and I don't meant for it to sound rude in anyway- I just know that right now I need to be working on myself. This post seems a little scatterbrained to me, but its just something I've been thinking about for quite some time. I guess what I want to know is how to still be involved in certain peoples lives, but not allow them to suck me into their drama? Its very difficult because I care deeply about these people but I also care way too much about what they think or may think about me. I'm me and I'm gonna be me. I'm starting to like the new me a lot- although I still have A LOT to work on- I like the direction I'm heading in, and I know for a fact that if my brain is consumed by others issues I will never be able to truly find myself.I found myself looking for drama today in my class- I keep saying I dont want it in my life and I need to eliminate it, yet I overheard a story about someone and I immediately jumped right in and asked who, what, when, and why? Why in the world would I do that when Im saying I dont want drama in my life- Any advice is welcome because this a really hard one for me.......:) thanks all!
Sunday, December 2, 2012
Day 1 of Healthy Living (sounds good lol)
So, today I woke up with the attitude of "Lets do this!" Most often that go getter attitude turns into a less enthusiatic one thru out the day, but luckly it didnt. I work at a health foods store and have some great co-workers who know quite a bit about changing your eating habits. At first- I thought Oh my god, health food store, there are going to be some crazies here. I was very skeptical to the idea that herbal supplements and simply eating "Real" food(no additives) could truly improve your health. Its amazing how one day of eating "right" has inspired me to do more.
I decided I was going to follow a very basic layout of how to start eating more healthy, which included a laundry list of very simply but effective tasks. The list included: 1. Always eat a big breakfast with a 1/2 c. of fruit added as well as making sure, if possible, that oatmeal is included
2. Drink 8 glasses of water per day- Drank 6 glasses today+ 2 glasses of Green Tea
3.Start a Food Diary and track everything that you consume
4. Sub fresh/dried fruit for candies and granola bars
5. Eat fish on most days if possible
6. Eat only whole grain cereal (3g of fiber/no more than 10g of sugar)
7. Add walnuts to breakfast or salads
8. Add sunflower seeds/almonds/hazelnuts to anything that you can think of
9.Eat red meat once a week
10. Grill or bake all meats
11.Eat at least one apple a day
12. Choose "fat free" or "low fat" dairy products
13. Eliminate foods with "trans-fat"
14. DITCH SOFT DRINKS
15. Limit consumption of juices and look for "freshly squeezed" not "Not Real Fruit Juice" labels
16. Eliminate foods with High Fructose Corn Syrup
17. Eat lots of brightly colored veggies/fruits
18.Use coconut oil for cooking
19.Drink Coffee- up to three times per day, but don't add all the sweetners(except xylitol)
20. Eat hot and spicy foods
21. Drink loose green tea
22. Lower sodium intake
23. Add at least 1/2 c. of fruits/veggies to EVERY meal- should equal 5-9 servings a day
24.Only eat wild caught fish/grass-fed beef/free range chicken
25.Don't eat heavy before bed
Im going to highlight and change color to red if I believe I am going to seriously struggle with that task- and then highlight and change color to blue if I completed this task on DAY 1. Then has we go day by day I will be able to track the progress Im making and focus on the things Im not completing. If this bores anyone Im sorry- this is just another HUGE change I'm making in my life to further better myself.
I watched a documentary last night called the "Beautiful Truth" and it was about how simply eating healthy can and has cured cancer- but the FDA is FEEDING us pharmaceuticals so that they can keep making money. It was said that a lot of the drugs given during treatment were made to have other side effects that in turn require different pills which means MORE MONEY!!!! Its absurd to me that we're just letting the FDA give us food that will ultimately kill us or make us sick. I know I sound like I'm on some new kick, but I've just been ignoring all these things for years because I wanted to do what made me feel good at that moment- instant gratification- but what I'm learning is that feeling better and setting yourself up to be able to fight illnesses and gain energy by simply eating healthy is so much better in the long run. Its our lives and we only have one- I know that a cliche phrase but its SO true.
Day 1: I had 2c. of honey nut cheerios + 1/2c. of Keflier Probiotics/ 2 Fiber Vitamins/ 1 Raw MultiVit
For a snack: I had 1 can of Coke (gotta cut that our slowly as Im totally addicted to this stuff- but I'm limiting myself to 1 can a day for the first week)+ 1/2c. of Trail Mix w/ fruit and nuts + an apple with crunchy peanut butter/honey
I drank a bottle of water (16oz) + a bottle of Peach Green Tea (16oz.) between noon and 5p.
I had another 1/2c. Trail Mix at 4p for an afternoon snack
For dinner: I had a piece of salmon (1 serv.) sesame rice and fresh veggies + another 1/2 c.
Keflier Probiotic drink+ another glass of water (8oz)
For an evening snack I had some water+a small bowl of cereal.
I'm wanting to track my diet at least once a week on here- I would love any feedback from anyone else who has tried this- and would love some tips or useful info. Glad to have some followers and know so many people are behind me and my changes. I will blog tomorrow about how my first day of including physical exercise in my daily routine went. Thanks for listening all hope to hear from yall. !!!!
I decided I was going to follow a very basic layout of how to start eating more healthy, which included a laundry list of very simply but effective tasks. The list included: 1. Always eat a big breakfast with a 1/2 c. of fruit added as well as making sure, if possible, that oatmeal is included
2. Drink 8 glasses of water per day- Drank 6 glasses today+ 2 glasses of Green Tea
3.Start a Food Diary and track everything that you consume
4. Sub fresh/dried fruit for candies and granola bars
5. Eat fish on most days if possible
6. Eat only whole grain cereal (3g of fiber/no more than 10g of sugar)
7. Add walnuts to breakfast or salads
8. Add sunflower seeds/almonds/hazelnuts to anything that you can think of
9.Eat red meat once a week
10. Grill or bake all meats
11.Eat at least one apple a day
12. Choose "fat free" or "low fat" dairy products
13. Eliminate foods with "trans-fat"
14. DITCH SOFT DRINKS
15. Limit consumption of juices and look for "freshly squeezed" not "Not Real Fruit Juice" labels
16. Eliminate foods with High Fructose Corn Syrup
17. Eat lots of brightly colored veggies/fruits
18.Use coconut oil for cooking
19.Drink Coffee- up to three times per day, but don't add all the sweetners(except xylitol)
20. Eat hot and spicy foods
21. Drink loose green tea
22. Lower sodium intake
23. Add at least 1/2 c. of fruits/veggies to EVERY meal- should equal 5-9 servings a day
24.Only eat wild caught fish/grass-fed beef/free range chicken
25.Don't eat heavy before bed
Im going to highlight and change color to red if I believe I am going to seriously struggle with that task- and then highlight and change color to blue if I completed this task on DAY 1. Then has we go day by day I will be able to track the progress Im making and focus on the things Im not completing. If this bores anyone Im sorry- this is just another HUGE change I'm making in my life to further better myself.
I watched a documentary last night called the "Beautiful Truth" and it was about how simply eating healthy can and has cured cancer- but the FDA is FEEDING us pharmaceuticals so that they can keep making money. It was said that a lot of the drugs given during treatment were made to have other side effects that in turn require different pills which means MORE MONEY!!!! Its absurd to me that we're just letting the FDA give us food that will ultimately kill us or make us sick. I know I sound like I'm on some new kick, but I've just been ignoring all these things for years because I wanted to do what made me feel good at that moment- instant gratification- but what I'm learning is that feeling better and setting yourself up to be able to fight illnesses and gain energy by simply eating healthy is so much better in the long run. Its our lives and we only have one- I know that a cliche phrase but its SO true.
Day 1: I had 2c. of honey nut cheerios + 1/2c. of Keflier Probiotics/ 2 Fiber Vitamins/ 1 Raw MultiVit
For a snack: I had 1 can of Coke (gotta cut that our slowly as Im totally addicted to this stuff- but I'm limiting myself to 1 can a day for the first week)+ 1/2c. of Trail Mix w/ fruit and nuts + an apple with crunchy peanut butter/honey
I drank a bottle of water (16oz) + a bottle of Peach Green Tea (16oz.) between noon and 5p.
I had another 1/2c. Trail Mix at 4p for an afternoon snack
For dinner: I had a piece of salmon (1 serv.) sesame rice and fresh veggies + another 1/2 c.
Keflier Probiotic drink+ another glass of water (8oz)
For an evening snack I had some water+a small bowl of cereal.
I'm wanting to track my diet at least once a week on here- I would love any feedback from anyone else who has tried this- and would love some tips or useful info. Glad to have some followers and know so many people are behind me and my changes. I will blog tomorrow about how my first day of including physical exercise in my daily routine went. Thanks for listening all hope to hear from yall. !!!!
Saturday, December 1, 2012
Changing Things Around
Hello All! I haven't written on here for a bit- been trying to examine my life and what needs to be changed in order to make myself happy. A few things come to mind:
1. Staying connected with my spiritual side
2. Eliminating the "Drama" in my life
3. Begin to eat healthier and exercise at least once a day for 30min to an hour
4. Most importantly: Doing ALL of these things FOR ME- to better myself for ME not anyone else- or course it will benefit others in the way I interact with others- but keeping ME first is the number 1 priority in this transformation.
I have been slacking a little on the "spirituality" aspect of my life- I have been praying daily but a few weeks ago I was praying daily, reading about spirituality and what it really means, talking with others about what I am experiencing and how it is impacting me, and taking a DAILY inventory of myself at the end of each night to determine if I'm progressing or regressing.
I plan on making this my NUMBER ONE priority- I have only been practicing this aspect of life for a little over a month- and I have not one bad thing to say about me attempting to connect with my Higher Power- I have had multiple "little" things happen daily that simply make my life better and make me smile. I've also seen response in regards to me making HUGE life decisions/changes- I have a sense of calmness and patience that I never use to have. So I plan on having a notebook that includes: Daily Inventory, Physical Activity Log ,and a Food Diary.
The "Eliminating Drama" Aspect of my life: Well, this is a very difficult task for me, as I have been surrounding myself with my drama and everyone else s drama for my entire life. I've learned that unfortunately I have created the majority of my drama in my life. Of course others contribute, but I have the learn to ELIMINATE the people that cause more drama than good in my life.
I have had to practice this technique more recently and it SUCKS to have to tell someone what they're doing is hurtful or isn't "right" But, it is very empowering to be able to stick up for yourself. There is a difference in speaking up for yourself and gossiping about others. There is a fine line- what I have to really work on is NOT speaking about others when they're not there.
Over the last month or so I have been the victim of "smack talk" from a person I considered to be my friend- I decided that after hearing from numerous others that this person was discussing mine and hers relationship and putting down the way I've treated them, instead of building up resentment and anger, I told this person exactly how I felt and that what they did hurt me- I'm proud of doing that BUT now I have to focus on not gossiping about this event and that I realize that I don't have to share ALL details of what has happened.
I have a BAD habit of telling every person or thing imaginable what is going on with so and so, and why they're doing this or that, and how dumb it is or irresponsible- yet I'm being "irresponsible" by not talking ONLY to the party involved. This week will include my taking a Daily Inventory of the events that occur in my daily life and how I handle them. Hopefully this will enlighten me to the things I do repeatedly and help me to better myself.
The Becoming Healthier and Exercising Aspect is going into full affect tomorrow. (Sunday)- I have been gaining weight pretty fast over the last 2 months. Yes, I know I'm not fat and that "I should eat more." But there is a healthy way to do that and me having 2 large McDonald's coke a day and eating fast food is rapidly hurting my body. I can tell that by me simply changing from drinking all soda all day- to just one soda a day and the rest of my liquid intake being water a substantial change in the way I feel. I feel so unhealthy bc of the fact that I have gained over 15lbs in less than a month- I could stand to gain 15lbs and still look good- but the reason I have gained weight is bc of the types of food I'm eating ( fast-food/frozen precooked meals/soda) and not having ANY type of physical activity to do except walking around at work.
I plan on beginning this tomorrow as well: I will have a Food Diary/Physical Activity Log that I will keep track of all food/drinks consumed and the amount of exercise performed each day. This will allow me to look at all habits and routines involved in my daily food/activity intake. Hopefully- by seeing similar patterns in my day to day life will help me to make changes that are needed in order to keep myself "eating a well-balanced diet" and making sure I am following thru with these changes.
Doing ALL things for ME Change is needing to trump all other tasks on this list- except my spirituality I have always done things for others or based my actions on how someone else will feel, which is good, but only to an extent. I have wanted to "change" many aspects of my life for quite some time now, but I never grabbed those changes by the horns and completed them- I would simply write out what I wanted to change, but if I thought that some one else might not think highly of me or like what I'm doing to change- I won't follow thru on that change. I will just put it on the back burners and keep saying "Ill get around to it." I have been making big life decisions/changes over the last couple months and in the beginning I swore I wouldn't let anyone else affect me or change my mind about completing this laundry list of things to change/accomplish- but I've noticed over the last couple of weeks that I'm going back to old communication/co-dependent behavior. I based my actions on what other people would think- which defeats the purpose of me changing things in MY life- the decision to change MY life has happened because I did not like how MY life was going. Of course other people will benefit from my changes most likely but Im not doing this for them- Im doing this because I am not satisfied. So- in order to start truly focusing on myself- I plan on eliminating people (for the time being) that are not encouraging to me/ surrounding myself with a different set of friends (Mostly ALL new ones, as I did not have many old friendships that lasted)/ Keeping a daily inventory of my life in all aspects/ going to meetings to learn more about myself/ speaking up for myself when my values are being compromised and STICKING to my boundaries- this will allow ME to be in control NOT anyone or anything else.
I appreciate more than you know having the support of family and friends. @Madie H.- Reading your blogs has truly inspired me- you set out to make changes and even with the hardships you're sticking to your commitment @April- you also have inspired me- I know your making changes to rid yourself of unnecessary pain caused by eating things that just don't work with you and your body. Its amazing to me that you can stick to your commitment as well. Both of you, along with a few others, have greatly influenced/impacted me. Thank you all for your love!!! Cant Wait to take this VERY MUCH needed vacay in less than a month to come see you lovely ladies.!!!
I will be blogging at least once a week as to update everyone on my weekly progress and watch how my habits change. Hope to hear from ya all! LOVE EVERYONE!!! <3 <3 <3
1. Staying connected with my spiritual side
2. Eliminating the "Drama" in my life
3. Begin to eat healthier and exercise at least once a day for 30min to an hour
4. Most importantly: Doing ALL of these things FOR ME- to better myself for ME not anyone else- or course it will benefit others in the way I interact with others- but keeping ME first is the number 1 priority in this transformation.
I have been slacking a little on the "spirituality" aspect of my life- I have been praying daily but a few weeks ago I was praying daily, reading about spirituality and what it really means, talking with others about what I am experiencing and how it is impacting me, and taking a DAILY inventory of myself at the end of each night to determine if I'm progressing or regressing.
I plan on making this my NUMBER ONE priority- I have only been practicing this aspect of life for a little over a month- and I have not one bad thing to say about me attempting to connect with my Higher Power- I have had multiple "little" things happen daily that simply make my life better and make me smile. I've also seen response in regards to me making HUGE life decisions/changes- I have a sense of calmness and patience that I never use to have. So I plan on having a notebook that includes: Daily Inventory, Physical Activity Log ,and a Food Diary.
The "Eliminating Drama" Aspect of my life: Well, this is a very difficult task for me, as I have been surrounding myself with my drama and everyone else s drama for my entire life. I've learned that unfortunately I have created the majority of my drama in my life. Of course others contribute, but I have the learn to ELIMINATE the people that cause more drama than good in my life.
I have had to practice this technique more recently and it SUCKS to have to tell someone what they're doing is hurtful or isn't "right" But, it is very empowering to be able to stick up for yourself. There is a difference in speaking up for yourself and gossiping about others. There is a fine line- what I have to really work on is NOT speaking about others when they're not there.
Over the last month or so I have been the victim of "smack talk" from a person I considered to be my friend- I decided that after hearing from numerous others that this person was discussing mine and hers relationship and putting down the way I've treated them, instead of building up resentment and anger, I told this person exactly how I felt and that what they did hurt me- I'm proud of doing that BUT now I have to focus on not gossiping about this event and that I realize that I don't have to share ALL details of what has happened.
I have a BAD habit of telling every person or thing imaginable what is going on with so and so, and why they're doing this or that, and how dumb it is or irresponsible- yet I'm being "irresponsible" by not talking ONLY to the party involved. This week will include my taking a Daily Inventory of the events that occur in my daily life and how I handle them. Hopefully this will enlighten me to the things I do repeatedly and help me to better myself.
The Becoming Healthier and Exercising Aspect is going into full affect tomorrow. (Sunday)- I have been gaining weight pretty fast over the last 2 months. Yes, I know I'm not fat and that "I should eat more." But there is a healthy way to do that and me having 2 large McDonald's coke a day and eating fast food is rapidly hurting my body. I can tell that by me simply changing from drinking all soda all day- to just one soda a day and the rest of my liquid intake being water a substantial change in the way I feel. I feel so unhealthy bc of the fact that I have gained over 15lbs in less than a month- I could stand to gain 15lbs and still look good- but the reason I have gained weight is bc of the types of food I'm eating ( fast-food/frozen precooked meals/soda) and not having ANY type of physical activity to do except walking around at work.
I plan on beginning this tomorrow as well: I will have a Food Diary/Physical Activity Log that I will keep track of all food/drinks consumed and the amount of exercise performed each day. This will allow me to look at all habits and routines involved in my daily food/activity intake. Hopefully- by seeing similar patterns in my day to day life will help me to make changes that are needed in order to keep myself "eating a well-balanced diet" and making sure I am following thru with these changes.
Doing ALL things for ME Change is needing to trump all other tasks on this list- except my spirituality I have always done things for others or based my actions on how someone else will feel, which is good, but only to an extent. I have wanted to "change" many aspects of my life for quite some time now, but I never grabbed those changes by the horns and completed them- I would simply write out what I wanted to change, but if I thought that some one else might not think highly of me or like what I'm doing to change- I won't follow thru on that change. I will just put it on the back burners and keep saying "Ill get around to it." I have been making big life decisions/changes over the last couple months and in the beginning I swore I wouldn't let anyone else affect me or change my mind about completing this laundry list of things to change/accomplish- but I've noticed over the last couple of weeks that I'm going back to old communication/co-dependent behavior. I based my actions on what other people would think- which defeats the purpose of me changing things in MY life- the decision to change MY life has happened because I did not like how MY life was going. Of course other people will benefit from my changes most likely but Im not doing this for them- Im doing this because I am not satisfied. So- in order to start truly focusing on myself- I plan on eliminating people (for the time being) that are not encouraging to me/ surrounding myself with a different set of friends (Mostly ALL new ones, as I did not have many old friendships that lasted)/ Keeping a daily inventory of my life in all aspects/ going to meetings to learn more about myself/ speaking up for myself when my values are being compromised and STICKING to my boundaries- this will allow ME to be in control NOT anyone or anything else.
I appreciate more than you know having the support of family and friends. @Madie H.- Reading your blogs has truly inspired me- you set out to make changes and even with the hardships you're sticking to your commitment @April- you also have inspired me- I know your making changes to rid yourself of unnecessary pain caused by eating things that just don't work with you and your body. Its amazing to me that you can stick to your commitment as well. Both of you, along with a few others, have greatly influenced/impacted me. Thank you all for your love!!! Cant Wait to take this VERY MUCH needed vacay in less than a month to come see you lovely ladies.!!!
I will be blogging at least once a week as to update everyone on my weekly progress and watch how my habits change. Hope to hear from ya all! LOVE EVERYONE!!! <3 <3 <3
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