The Small Things and the Big Things

So first thing on the list : Not letting the small things turn into big things.
I am probably the Queen on turning small thing into bigger things. I've learned that communication is the key to everything (which will be a different post) but especially when small problems come up. I tend to take most things offensively for some reason and then I won't stop to clarify; I'll just get really upset and play the passive-aggressive role. I just recently learned that I solve almost all of problems by being passive-aggressive and by solve, I mean never solve. I found this definition and believe it suits my behaviors well;  Passive aggressive behavior can manifest itself as learned helplessness, procrastination, hostility masquerading as jokes, stubbornness, resentment, sullenness, or deliberate/repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is (often explicitly) responsible.^[2] 
I am really trying to stop and think before I speak- this sounds like kindergarten level communication skills but you'd be surprised how often I miss interpreted something my husband would say for something mean and spiteful when it was meant to be helpful. I then would take that comment out of context, not say anything directly to him, just walk about pitying myself and then a day later I would get so upset over something like the dishes being dirty- in reality I'm still mad about that one comment said to me days ago. Proving that I now had made something big out of something small and it caused resentment, anger, sadness, and caused either one of us to get anywhere. Over the last few days I have been trying to make a conscious effort to ask if I feel a comment sounds "mean" or "upset" and the couple times I have taken it wrong and I spoke up we solved it right then and there. I was surprised at myself yesterday because I was upset that there were certain people at my place that I didn't want there- I walked around acting like a teenager until Justin finally asked what was wrong...what was my response? "Nothing" Ha. Ya right. He then just said, "Holly your being passive aggressive." I stopped right then and there and said you know what, your right. I don't think he could believe his ears that I actually agreed and meant it :) But I really did notice it and then quickly turned the situation into a much better one than it usually would have been.
Moral of the Story:  Take some time and think about what your doing as your reacting to situations that upset you. I have found that by me actually saying how I REALLY feel I'm able to fix the issue and move on. If I continue to be so passive- aggressive I will never be able to express my feelings and set boundaries and truthfully tell people how I feel about specific situations. Its a work in progress that's for sure but I'm learning that something you just have to let certain things go, they're just not worth the energy and time. I have wasted  an uncountable number of hours fighting over such stupid things because I was holding resentment from another argument 2 weeks back that I cant even remember what it was about. Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill :)

Soon to Follow: My new relationship with God- crazy amazing how many prayers have already been answered for myself and my family over the last week.

Night All!!! :) :) :)