Drama No More- Wrote this a couple weeks past forgot to post it

Hello All! So I'm going to write about a couple different things. I have come to realize, with some help, that I have a couple "problems" that are all mind consuming. The post before this was about not letting the little things turn into big things, yet I'm doing that exact thing right now. I'm trying to learn how to set boundaries with specific people in my life right now and I don't feel like I'm successful in that. I'm having a difficult time REALLY speaking up- I can voice that I want things to be different and hopefully they will be, but right now I don't feel like I'm aggressive enough in setting those boundaries. I don't want to "minimize" this issue because I know that if I let these boundaries continue to be crossed I will end up much more angry and/or upset about a issue that could have been a small one. I'm just having such a hard time saying what I really mean- I don't want to hurt other people by these boundaries, nor do I intend to, but setting boundaries isn't exactly a pleasant thing for anyone, and that is what I don't like. I want everything to be butterflys and roses easy. I've just come to realize that life is so so short and could be over in a second and I do not want to live my life surrounded by drama anymore. I think I've always kind of migrated to drama. I had friends in high school that were the definition of drama queen, and I just always found myself in the middle of other people's issues. I have no problem, I actually enjoy, hearing others problems and trying to help them in what ever way I can, but I've learned that I cannot change people. People change themselves.I guess I'm just hoping that I can learn to separate other's issues and my life. I tend to let things bother me and I dwell on them and wonder what could be done differently.  I know its healthy to an extent to con tinplate certain issues but my problem is letting those issues affect my life. I'm just in a place right now where I need to end drama in my life. I have enough to deal with and I know that comes off as selfish and I don't meant for it to sound rude in anyway- I just know that right now I need to be working on myself. This post seems a little scatterbrained to me, but its just something I've been thinking about for quite some time. I guess what I want to know is how to still be involved in certain peoples lives, but not allow them to suck me into their drama? Its very difficult because I care deeply about these people but I also care way too much about what they think or may think about me. I'm me and I'm gonna be me. I'm starting to like the new me a lot- although I still have A LOT to work on- I like the direction I'm heading in, and I know for a fact that if my brain is consumed by others issues I will never be able to truly find myself.I found myself looking for drama today in my class- I keep saying I dont want it in my life and I need to eliminate it, yet I overheard a story about someone and I immediately jumped right in and asked who, what, when, and why? Why in the world would I do that when Im saying I dont want drama in my life- Any advice is welcome because this a really hard one for me.......:) thanks all!